I recall one day when I was talking about one-child policy in the office, someone mentioned that my generation is tomato generation - spoilied, self centered while not as capable.

 

I totally understand the selfishness of most people at my age because I am a selfish, self centered tomato person too. However,  a recent experience with one of my close friends really made me want to improve, to be a better person.

 

theory 1: Keep distance

I always said that a true friend does not have to be around all the time, but show up when his/her friend needs a shoulder to cry on. However, I really got hurt recently by the fact that I was regarded as a temp shoulder and my overly flooded sympathy was not a little bit appreciated, but was regarded as "nosiness". Maybe some people prefer to live his/her own world and need help occasionally. So lesson learnt.

 

thoery 2: Be humble

So many people these days think way too highly of themselves, but in fact they really have nothing at all. This is another shared symptom of my tomato generation. I remember when I was kid, when I was dancing, the whole family was roaming with compliments. Was I that good? Of course not! However, this compliment thing really built up my self esteem and I truely believed that I was the best. I believe most of people at my age grew up with similar experience. We worship power and money (most people do not admit it, but trust me, we all do.) We adore stereotypical success (higher education, white collar, and office slaves). We dispise those who didn't go to ivy schools. We are stuck-up even though we have pretty much nothing...but a piece of paper that stands for how much tuition we paid. Stupid...this is totally wrong. Folks, open your eyes. There are so many great people in this world who have never been in a college and there are so many successful entreprenuers who do not speak a second language, but they all have a "shared feature" - humble. So be humble, we have nothing to back up our egoism.